Learn to ask for what you want from your partner.

Have you ever thought about how different your relationship would be if you actually told your spouse what exactly you need. It’s okay to talk to your partner because no one can read minds. If you don’t ask for what you need then the likelihood of getting it is slim. If you ask then there is a 50% chance you will get what you need or want. Asking can be scary and here are a few reasons: fear of rejection, feeling somehow less independent and not feeling worthy. These fears usually lead someone to believe that asking may lead to fighting and worse, the relationship ending. In summary, for many people it’s either about not asking for what you need to preserve the relationship or asking for what you need worried that if you do the relationship may end. That sounds like a challenging decision. Lets look at it in a different way, it can be harmful to not get your needs met and as harmful if the relationship ends. If your needs continue to go unmet at some point the relationship will probably end, anyway. We should also be aware of how we ask for what we want. Are we asking or demanding? 

Think about what you want to ask. Is it realistic? Is it important to you? Can your partner fulfill the request? If yes then it’s probably important to ask. If you are struggling with these questions or are unsure how to communicate your request role play with people you trust; family or friends. Learning to communicate what you need is also really important. Even if it’s hard to be fulfilled, atleast your partner will know that it’s what you need and will try all means. If what you need is companionship, affection, appreciation etc then communicate.

Outcomes are uncertain but you’ll never know unless you try..

I really don’t know how to emphasize this but “TALK TO YOUR SPOUSES” its the only way to better and happy relationships. If you can’t talk to your partner about these simple normal talks then you’re in the wrong relationship.

A girlfriend’s desire.

I don’t care if we need to approach a new chapter of our life together slowly so that you feel more comfortable.

I’ll make you forget your past and that any person that did you wrong will see how much she lost and regret the day it happened.

I don’t care if you have scars and feel like your imperfect because i like every little detail on you.

I want to travel the world with you. I want to stay at home with you and watch your favorite movies just to put a smile on your face.

I want to be the person you count on even during the most desperate times.

I want to call you for no reason just to hear your voice and silly laugh.

I know relationships are more than just falling in love but i like every single bit of it because you motivate me to be a better person.

I am not letting this generation fool me into thinking that love ain’t cool.

What they din’t tell us about relationships.

I must say dating ain’t as easy as we all expect it to be. Damn! Relationships are pretty much hard to understand. From loving one person to making sure everything works out is really something. Yesss, waking up to morning cuddles and forehead kisses, then wearing matching outfits and creating memories is good but how about the arguments, the sleepless nights while crying thinking your partner is cheating on you. People never tell us that story, they never tell us the bad side about dating.

1. Yes, you’ll cry at times.
2. You’ll feel insecure
3. Not all nights will be perfect and romantic
4. At times they’ll chose their friends or work over you.
5. Urguments are normal.
6. You’ll fell over protective or over protected.
7. Ofcourse you’ll get jealous every other day.

Everyone tells us love is amazing, love is beautiful, love is this and that. Okay sir that’s true now how about you tell me that ill cry at times, how about you tell me ill have to worry and be stressed out because of someone. Even the cutest couples you see out there have problems to. You’ve seen celebrities that have all the money they could need but fail to find love.

I think love is the ability to unconditionally care and protect someone. A willingness to prioritize another’s well-being or happiness above your own. Extreme feelings of attachment, affection, and need. Dramatic, sudden feelings of attraction and respect. A fleeting emotion of care, affection. Your soulmate will not just walk into your life with a tag on his/her head. So it will always be hard to know which is which. You might find that your mums highschool friend is the long awaited soulmate. Haha! Kidding. I haven’t experienced much myself but i must say i don’t know whats better, single or dating life.

I get to learn something new about love everyday. But the most important lesson is don’t compare your love life to that of movies and social media. Yes they are wearing matching outfits while going for a movie night, Awww! Nice, good for them. Now don’t stress someone’s son or daughter about that. Live your own love life, because let’s face it we have all once had a favorite YouTube or Instagram couple that we idolized that broke up or even divorced. Their today’s video might be your couple goals and tomorrow’s video they are talking about how it’s over, how about you carry that same energy. If you still want your peace of mind, you can as well stop the comparison between your love life with that of instagram, youtube and movie couples . Worse still, movie love stories are scripted but you want your boyfriend to act the same. Come on!!

But in the end it all makes sense now. No one told us shit and they were right, let’s all write our stories because however much we try it will always be different with everyone. Embrace the good and let go of the bad for there’s always a lesson in every second that passes by, all those regrets and mistakes are memories made.

I miss you.

I’m the book that you decided not to finish
But i wrote it anyway
Now i have an ending that you’ll never know.
I remember when i thought everything lasts forever
Until you left
This pain stayed even though you didn’t

That song we both loved,
became the one I couldn’t listen to anymore
You said you’d never leave,
But where are you now that I need you? .
Are you still doing the same thing?
Convincing yourself you’re ok without me

We drifted apart,
But these feelings are hard to ignore
Even my dreams speak fondly of you
These memories of you don’t feel like home anymore
Am I meant to feel this way?
I still want a little more of you.

You let go of me when i still wanted you to hold on
I’ve never felt like this, I was unprepared,
It was a game for two why am I the loser?
You were my forever, I was your for now
Maybe oneday these words
about you won’t flow quite so easily

Am here wondering,
Do you still remember the taste of my lips
Or even my favorite song
Because there’s magic in misery
It keeps pulling me back
I want to hear you say you miss me.

18 most common benefits of dating.

Dating can sometimes be therapeutic, some people are always messed up when single. They always want someone besides them to show them the right path. Im not saying that everyone should be dating, im just implying that it has really helped some people mentally and physically especially the men. Do y’all have partners that still give you butterflies when you meet them even if you’ve been together for months or years??? Yesss! That’s the feeling im talking about, those are the relationships i be talking about.

Some of y’all be stuck in toxic relationships where all you do is have sex and ask for money. No connection and bond at all, you can’t even finish each others sentences or know what your partner is going to reply to a particular question. Nooo!! I’m not always talking about those suitationships that y’all be holding on to.

This article is about the benefits of dating. They ain’t what y’all should be expecting in your relationships, they’re just my personal opinions.

1 .You’ll always have someone special to hug and hold. I know most of y’all love hugs like crazy, and most importantly that warm hug when your partner is telling you that everything will be fine. Those hugs tend to be stress relieving and therapeutic everytime.

2. Lets not forget the comfort of having to sleep while cuddling with your significant other. Sleeping alone is fine, and provides much comfort but sleeping besides someone you love is everything, you won’t even want the night to end. Its scientifically proven that sleeping with someone you love is a stress reliever and reduces anxiety.

3. You both develop mentally from adapting each others interests. I have witnessed this from myself and friends. When you date someone for long you tend to change mentally, you might change your way of talking and thinking. Some people say that when you be with someone for long you start acting like them. It might be about the way of doing things, the change in meals, laughter, and change in interests among others.
4. Having someone to share interests with. This is common among the couples that love movies, sports, music, dancing among others. You will always have someone to do all the things you love with. There is no feeling better than doing something you like with someone you love, its those small things that create the best memories.
5. You’ll always have someone to practice your dreams with. I know most of you watch movies and wish to do some particular thing with someone. Dating gives you that person to do all the things you choreographed for example sun bathing at the beach, singing and dancing together, running in the rain, the late night calls, watching movies while laying in eachothers chest among others.

6. You always have someone to compliment your fashion/style. It’s like having your own personal fashion adviser, they will always compliment your looks and tell you to change if necessary. Dating brings some good change in everyones life because you will always want to be smart for your partner.
7. And you’ll always have someone to talk, gossip and laugh with. I think this is obvious to some extent, being in a relationship gives you a best friend. There is a way you get so used and open to someone, you can talk about anything or anyone at any time of the day or night. There was a time i found myself with my ex talking about presidents at 5am. It’s the little things that count.
8. Dating automatically gives you a best friend, adviser, therapist, and lover all in one. Well i don’t know if y’all are dating the right people but if you only got a pornstar and trouble marker in one then i don’t know what to tell you. Being in a relationship gives you a special bond with someone’s son or daughter, they will advise and support your dreams or advise you when wrong.

9. You can communicate using a special eye-code when around other people. I know most of you have done this with your bestfriends and its also possible with your partner. Imagine seeing something funny in the public and just an eye contact with your partner is a full conversation. Its funnier and better with experience.
10. You’ll always have someone to do things with. Doing things like shopping, dates, going for movies, and dancing becomes much fun when your doing it with someone you care about.
11. Twice the man power for doing chores. Well everything always gets better and Easier when done by two people. Women don’t have to do everything around the house, doing things together makes chores less boring.
12. You’ll have someone to go to special events with. I know how most of you don’t like going to parties and dances alone, when your siblings and friends can’t come with you, you always have one extra person to ask because they’ll want to spend some time with you.
13. You’ll always have someone that’s always willing to listen to you. Well, we all have problems, and situations that always seem to be hard to pass by. Your partner will always be willing to listen and give advise where necessary because some times friends only tell you what you want to hear and not the opposite.

14. They change you and make you a better person. I’ve seen most people change after they’ve started dating. I think this change is good because it helps to improve someones physical appearance. The women start wearing cute outfits and changing hair styles while the men start caring more about their personal hygiene. I think its easy to spot a man who has a girlfriend at home from a single one sometimes. Because the single guy is just in his comfort zone and all chilled out not trying to impress anyone.
15. You’ll always have someone missing you while your away. Whether you’re at work, class or away for some days, someone will always be out their thinking about you and wishing you nothing but goodluck wondering when you’ll come back home.
16. Having someone to spend all your free time with. You don’t have to spend your weekends alone when your dating. If your family and friends are not available, you’ll always have one more person to plead for, even if its just a movie or cuddling its always worth the time.
17. Unlimited and varied sex with someone you love and care about. Intimacy is the most important thing in relationships, you’ll always have all the kisses, sex, and cuddles every time you’re together and feel like doing so. You dont have to starve or pay for sex, i don’t know about you buh being in love while they love you back is the best feeling.
18. Dating gives you an opportunity to learn not only about the person you’re with, but also yourself. You’ll never know how crazy or insecure you are until you actually like someone.

Reminder
Some people don’t love or even care about you, they just want to stay connected to you so they can enjoy the BENEFITS. They do the minimal a little phone call just checking on how you are doing, thinking about ya, etc, maintaining all the connection so that when they need you, they still have a way in.

Please don’t forget to leave a comment about your best experince from your own relationship.

What’s the craziest thing that you’ve done for love?

Beirut explosion.

Beirut explosion.

The massive explosions that hit Beirut on Tuesday may have been caused by explosive materials confiscated years ago and stored at the city’s port, General Security chief Abbas Ibrahim said.

The explosion killed and wounded dozens of people, shaking buildings and sending huge plumes of smoke billowing into the Beirut sky.

The blast struck with the force of a 3.5 magnitude earthquake, according to Germany’s geosciences center GFZ, and it was heard and felt as far away as Cyprus more than 200 kilometers (180 miles) across the Mediterranean.

“It was a real horror show. I haven’t seen anything like that since the days of the (civil) war,” said Marwan Ramadan, who was about 500 meters (yards) from the port and was knocked off his feet by the force of the explosion.

Health Minister Hassan Hamad said the preliminary toll was more than 70 dead and more than 3,000 wounded. Emergency teams streamed in from across Lebanon to help, and the injured had to be taken to hospitals outside the capital. Hamad added that hospitals were barely coping and offers of aid were pouring in from Arab states and friends of Lebano

#pray for Beirut civilians.

Daily qoutes

Do something today that your future self will thank you for.

The best natural remedy for a glowing face.

Your face is the first thing people see, so it only makes sense that you’d want to take good care of it. Good skin care and healthy lifestyle choices can help delay natural aging and prevent various skin problems. This remedy is for the people with dry skins, acne problems and black spots. You can also do it if you just want your face to glow.

This procedure takes about one or two weeks for better results.
Ingredients include:
Tomatoes
Eggs
Avocado
100mls of Milk
1 Lemon
Honey

Procedure.

Step 1: Wash your face with warm water thoroughly and wip it clean.
Step 2: Use a soft clean face towel to clean your face again with milk. Milk is a good cleanser and you will notice that there is some dirt coming off your face in the face towel even after you had washed your face with warm water. Clean your face and leave it dry.

Deep the face towel in milk and clean your face.

Step 3: Break the egg and apply only the egg white on your face. Leave that on your face for about 5 minutes and clean your face again with warm water.

NB: Step 3 should only be done twice a week not every day. You could decide to only do it on Wednesday and Sunday. Whichever day you choose to do step 3 then step 4 shouldn’t be done that day.
Step 4: Apply avocado or tomato juice to your face for about 5-10mins. Any that you decide to use is fine. Wash it off with warm water and dry your face.
Step 5: Add 2 spoons of honey to lemon juice and mix it well. Apply the mixture to your face for about 5 minutes. This solution can be mixed and kept of other days. You could mix more and keep it in a small bottle so that you dont have to do that everyday. This will leave your skin feeling fresh, clean, and moisturized.

Add enough lemon juice to the honey and apply on your face.

This procedure has really helped me and i think it will help you to, just stick to the procedures daily for better results.

I’ll be waiting for your reviews.

Thank you.

O, MY KING!

I love you for so many reasons
You are the moon that shimmers
Throughout my nights
If not for you, I’d never have the pleasures of romance.
I’d miss the bliss, the craziness,
Silly laughters of your enchanting love
You make my body sizzle with your kisses

O, my king.
Your touch, your scent, your smile, your voice
Uhhhh! Can’t get enough of you
Love is very cruel
Cause it makes me act like a fool
Buh i love this feeling
Wouldnt trade it for anything

O,my king
I never gave up on dreaming,
I persisted because I just knew;
A wait for real love is worth it,
Now you’re here, and my dreams have come true
So beware of the power you exert over me,
For I’m under your spell
Together we are fire on fire

O, my king
My brain is out of order
My thoughts about you have filled it to the brim
With you is where i belong
In your arms is where i find comfort.
Hey! You dropped something
It’s your crown, “here, my king”.

Te quiero

By: Anita. A

Daily qoute.

Loving yourself is the best gift you’ll ever give “YOU”.